I’m following this prompt by SITS Girls – Write a post inspired by this one word: Marriage
When I was younger, I knew I wanted to be married, have a family, but never really knew the nitty gritty about marriage. My parents separated when I was almost 8 so I didn’t see marriage around me 24/7. All of our extended family was married (for the most part) but you only see them here and there. I guess that made part of what to expect a bit of mystery.
When Jon and I got married, we had already lived with each other (gasp, I know). We had learned to work with each other, even if at times that didn’t really work out well. I remembered asking myself, what REALLY changes when you get married? Isn’t it the same as living with someone?
In essence. No. I don’t think it’s the same thing as just living with someone. Marriage is a huge commitment. When you live with someone – you share a lease, but if things go south, you just break that and move on. With marriage, there’s so much more to it than that. Now, this post isn’t a “hey, everyone get married!” type. But it’s my opinion that things do change when you exchange vows, rings, and kisses.
The first thing I noticed (besides the merging of our bank accounts) was this unspoken bond between us. He was my number one, and I his. Anyone could say anything to me, but he was the one I valued most. We chose each other to begin this journey and my, how crazy at times it has been. 5 years is a lot, and yet it is not. In 5 years together, we’ve bought a condo, sold a condo. Had 2 kids, suffered 1 miscarriage. Been to weddings, been to funerals. Celebrated our friends having kids, cried with those that lost pregnancies. We’ve grown together in our faith, and spoken openly about our struggles with faith & sin.
One thing I know, is that marriage isn’t a simple task. I look around at couples that have been together for 1 year, 5 years, 10, or more. The one common thing is that they are all learning how to grow up, together. We are not the same people we were when we said I Do. That’s a great thing, and also a great challenge. How boring would life be if we stayed the same? No thank you!